Real Secrets of Dating!!!

"BEEF UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP"

2009-01-04T09:57:00.000-08:00

BEEF UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN "2009"

"It's 2009 but nothing has really changed

Nothing will ever really change

It's just us that need to change inside

So change can effect itself on the outside"

Relationship is everything.Love is everything-the one single source of unexplainable hapiness.A crappy relationship can terribly ruin your career.So also, a little neglect like forgeting your partner's birthday can ruin a week or even a month because she'd whine over it.And then, it is really a bad thing!

Here is a summary of a few tips:

Don't forget the power of surprise gifts(apart from the birthday or special days)

Remember to always observe and sincerely compliment your partner when he/she gets a new cloth or wears a beautiful hairdo or dress

Don't wait for signs of dryness befor taking her out on another date-swimming,restaurant,theatre,concert,picnic-.Make sure it's never thesame place all the time.

Take care of your appearance.Spend a little more time and money to dazzle him/her with your appearance.

Exercise regularly and maintain an attractive size.

Keep your breath great.

It's 2009,keep your promises to her also.

HAVE A LOVE-FUL NEW YEAR!

...the first and basic principle of attracting women!

2008-12-27T19:53:00.001-08:00

Being Mysterious…..the first and basic principle of attracting women

Remember how many times you’ve heard the expression:

"mysterious stranger"

" I really want to get to know you more"

Being enigmatic makes a person tick. Someone you can read like an open book lacks that essential quality and is therefore less attractive at first glance.

“People are attracted to mystery”

A busy person always seems attractive. You simply wish to know more. And in trying to know more, you find an interest level that you didn't find in those that offer you everything on a plate.

To be successful and attractive when dating it pays to keep something in reserve

“By being a challenge to someone who wants to get to know you and by making them work for it, your chances of success in the dating game are so much higher”

It is worth noting however that enigma and mystery are very different from being stubborn and moody. Not knowing about your life and what makes you tick is one thing. Being downright secretive is something completely different.

Here are some key tips to being enigmatic and mysterious:

At work or with friends, don't bore the office with every opinion you can muster.

Always keep something back when relating a story - why and how and when are details for later

Don't announce every plan you make. Keep some things to yourself for a while

Do not phone people, let them call you

Don't always return calls and never instantly

Keep your private life private. It is not open for general discussion and debate

Don't be too available but don't explain why you are not available either

Keep people guessing

Making interested parties think they are not the only person interested in you ups the ante and increases your desirability

Don't reply to emails and text messages at weekends

If you are using a dating service, don't reply to emails and messages at weekends

Be busy without giving details of what you are doing

Break plans occasionally without giving too much away

When you do meet up be entertaining and fascinating without giving every detail away

Never discuss ex partners and refuse to be drawn on the subject

Use an evasive enigmatic smile to answer questions to great effect

Even when people beg you to know more, keep them guessing

Never be too available, your diary is always semi-full as far as anyone is concerned

Mention you were with 'some people' but say little else on the subject when relating a tale

Let people do the running and don't do the chasing unless necessary

Have different groups of friends who you don't mix together

To be highly effective, create the desire initially then ration it afterwards. They will treat you like a drug, craving more due to the great times they have when they do eventually get to see you

Learn key expressions like "oh I have been really busy", "wow its been crazy", "I have lots of plans this week", "my diary is really full" and "Oh I have been doing so many things" without giving more away

Be a challenge!

Never be an open book!

Make people work to get to know you!

Being mysterious takes practice and takes time to get right. Once you do so and are comfortable in not being in constant communication with people they will soon desire to know more.
It requires a fine balancing trick however because if you are too evasive, people will get fed up and move on!

AVOID DOING WHAT MAKES SENSE,DO WHAT WORKS!!!

Check the RESOURCES on the left this page for more comprehensive materials!

Terrible Habits at Dates

2008-12-27T18:58:00.000-08:00

"Terrible Habits at Dates: Traits We Won't Accept"…ladies

This definitely depends on individual ladies. There are however some common grounds:

1. Hygiene
This is at the top in the league. Unfortunately, it is often overlooked by men. A date requires more than a quick rake of the hair and the straightening of a T shirt.

“Remember, first impressions count and may be the only impression you leave”

Before a date; have a shave, wash your hair, scrub up well and get suited and booted. Brush your teeth for two straight minutes, wear deodorant and aftershave (a little of the good stuff only please) and put on a nice shirt!

2. Dressing
Some guys look terrible at dates… with a wrong dressing combinations or inappropriate attire. It sucks!

“The fact is, the first date is very important”

You don't need to be wearing Gucci or Armani, your comfort should be of prime importance. Smart casual can be good depending on your date.

3. Money
Keep your cash conversations to a zero level and enjoy your date together. Money, contrary to many impressions doesn't impress at first. It simply polarizes views. It can leave your date feeling very uncomfortable either way.

“Don’t lie about the size of your pocket”

4. Lies
People tell lies on dates, in fact most people do. Usually you get caught later on. Little white lies show the path towards dating disaster. Honesty is one of the basic building blocks of any new dating experience.

“Get caught out later at your peril”

5. Drinking
Here lays the true path to disaster. May ladies complain that the most promising dates they have been on got nipped in the bud simply because their dates got lashed on stout or beer. Many people are far better with a drink inside them than without. It's a relaxant; it calms nerves and fears and promotes a feeling of confidence.

While drinking can be fine, leave it out at this stage of your dating game plan.

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2008-12-27T03:10:00.000-08:00

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2008-12-26T21:00:00.001-08:00

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How Do You Kiss?

2008-12-25T09:08:00.000-08:00

How to Kiss…for first timers

“Imagine that you and your date just returned from a concert on a cool evening. The room is only dimly lit as soft music echoes underneath. He/She is looking at you lustfully and you’re horny too-how’d you kiss him/her?”

Basics

Maintain a Great Breath

Always brush your teeth before going out on a date. If you’ve ever kissed someone with bad breath, you’d know it’s terrible.

Always keep a mint in hand at a date. It’d come in useful after eating so you don’t ooze out the smell of the meal

Never take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum, you should not have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moisten Your Lips
Your lips should be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss.

Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. Also, don’t wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss.

A slightly moist lip makes it easier to move your lips over your partner's and gives you both a more pleasant experience.

Keep a Good Positioning

Stand close to your partner. As you close up, either of you should tilt his/her head slightly to one side so your lips meet on a slight angle.

Always tilt your head in the opposite direction to your partner’s.

French kiss

The French kiss is the most popular type of kiss. This is because it is deeper, touching your tongue with your partner’s-no doubt; it can be quite a pleasant experience.

Few tips to have a great French kiss:

Relax

You lips should be relaxed, you body should be relaxed, otherwise it will be like kissing a dead fish for the other person.

There are only two things involved in a French kiss: your lips and your tongue. That's it!

Slightly Open Your Lips

Your lips should be slightly parted, not open wide like you're at the dentist. Open them just far enough, just like your regular breathing through your mouth.

Keep a Good Positioning

Very important! Do not have your face dead on to his/hers; otherwise your noses will touch. This sucks!

Move your head to one side just enough so your nose is out of the way. Your mouths should meet at the corner of the other's mouth.

Get Her In Bed

2008-12-23T21:37:00.002-08:00

STEP-BY-STEP TIPS TO SEDUCING A WOMAN

Manage your image. Before you can seduce a girl, you must have a good, positive image. Make friends and be charming with every one you come in contact with. Never hesitate to tell one person what you admire about another, as it will eventually reach that person and appear undoubtedly genuine. Never argue (arguing is anti-seduction). No girl can resist a guy whom everyone likes.

Manage your reputation. While people around you begin to like you, you may start to appear phony or plastic. You must also subtly reveal your human side with talk of taboo and sexuality. If you cannot insinuate, skip this step. Occasionally hint to people that you enjoy the company of young girls on a purely platonic level. When you talk about sex, say it in a way that Shakespeare would approve of. For example, "Sleep is my second favorite thing to do in bed" or "my neighbors are noisy during the day, but that's okay because they put up with me at night."

Do the opposite of what other guys do. If the girl is drop-dead gorgeous, ignore her. After hearing about your rakish reputation, she will wonder why you are not attracted to her. If other guys ignore her, shower her with the attention she has been craving. It will appear to her that you are smitten.

Hint that other girls like you. Women hold each other's opinions very highly and they get jealous easily.

Wait for the sign that she is interested. The gorgeous girl was ignoring you at first and now she flirts heavily. The not-so-attractive girl was shy and hesitant at first, but now she drops (very subtle) hints that she wants you to make a move.

Speak seductively. Never start a conversation focused on work, school, MySpace, family,TV shows, or other everyday things. Never talk about yourself. Talk about exotic vacation spots, mythology,sex (sometimes), history, astrology, dreams, fate, and anything else pleasurable and intangible. Don't express any opinions except for your preference for pleasurable things and for things that she likes. Keep a powerful gaze while talking about these things. The eyes are very important. Never apologize. Never worry when you are talking with a girl, because it will be written all over your face and interpreted as a sign of weakness.

Show strategic weakness (optional). This step is optional, but it will speed up the seduction. If you naturally come off as weak, skip this step. For more masculine guys, a flash of weakness and sensitivity will make you seem honest, romantic, harmless, and more akin to a girl's idea of "the one." All girls are frightened of guys on some level. The more feminine and skittish the girl is, the more necessary this step is. The key to performing this step correctly is to bend the truth. Don't talk about breakups or events that you really are sensitive about. As with dancing, it is your job to lead. Don't lead her into a depressing discussion topic. Add a masculine angle to feminine subjects. A good idea would be to say, "yeah, I watched The Notebook. I liked how he didn't give up hope after he saw her with the other guy."

Give her plenty of space. There are bound to be things about you that she doesn't like.Give her time to forget about those things and fantasize about the good things you have to offer.

Ask her out.You will eventually learn what the right time is--not too early and not too late.If you flirt with a girl over a long period of time, you will notice that the slow, steady increase in the attention that she gives you is followed by a sharp drop-off. This is a signal that she is sick of waiting and spites you for it. You have no chance after that. Girls are very picky about timing. Make sure it's an offer she can't refuse. It takes attention to detail, practice and luck to pick the perfect first date.

Turn on the charm. She already said "yes." As difficult as it is to blow it now, many guys do by being shy. If you don't show that you're attracted to her now, you will be seen as unappreciative or weak. Girls typically give about ten "nos" for every "yes," so show (don't tell) your appreciation for it. It's OK to bend the truth. If she's gorgeous, insinuate how clever and charming she is. If she's not, insinuate that she is. A great deal of the conversation will be non-verbal. Use ambiguous physical contact. Walk close enough to her that you brush against each other often, touch her lower back when you open the car door for her. If you are nervous when you touch a girl, it will make her very uncomfortable.Confidence is the difference between touching her and molesting her.
If she is shy,

write well-crafted letters to her. There are some diamonds in the rough out there. When she is reading a letter, she can enjoy your words of love without worrying about whether you like the way she looks or acts. Each time she reads it (and she will read it over and over again so make it good) she will wish more and more that you are there with her. Make every word count and keep it brief. If she's outgoing and a good talker, she may find letters trivial, but always include a good one with gifts. Whether talking or writing, keep it brief. It is better to say nothing at all than to say something that is not seductive.

Obey the correct sequence of physical interactions. Don't move too fast. Wait for her to touch you flirtatiously. Hand-holding is next. Then comes close contact and embraces. Then comes kissing. Then comes the making out and heavy petting and all the rest. The process should be slow, poetic and musical like Pachelbel's Canon. There is no room for discomfort in seduction.

Establish an emotional connection. When you talk to your person of interest, find out commonalities, establish the moment, and you may relate to things she is passionate about or interested in.

Facts You Must Know 'bout Seducing Women!

2008-12-23T21:21:00.000-08:00

Must Know...If You'll Never Goof Seducing Her

"Seduction is an art. It takes as much practice as learning a musical instrument or painting"

"Empathy is essential to seduction. Every woman is different, so tailor your date, your words and your actions to that specific woman. You must know what she is thinking before you can offer her the pleasure she craves"

"If she senses that you are seducing her, she will run away. The pace of your seduction should be slow and the volume should be quiet"

"All women like power in at least one of its many manifestations: money, status, intelligence, strength, etc. You need at least a little before you can seduce the most beautiful of women"

"Many girls will tell you that confidence is what they look for, but nothing will increase your confidence like a successful seduction"

'Insinuation is a must. Only a movie star or a professional athlete could expect success with a brash line like "let's go back to my place and...." '

"Don't be a doormat or a people-pleaser. If you are perceived as weak, you will never get a girl"

"Always be honest, meaning don't tell a lie. A lie is something you can get caught in. Don't lie about your income, whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you are good at sports, etc"

" Girls can see right through lies. However, bending the truth to achieve a more poetic effect is absolutely necessary. Also, most of the time, the correct answer is to say nothing at all"

"Seducing a woman is like dancing with a woman. Sometimes you hold her close and sometimes you let her shine on her own and watch. If you are too clingy, she will feel suffocated. If you let her go and never come back, she will be insulted"

"Reveal yourself slowly and only when directly asked. Don't show more of yourself than she asks for. When the mystery is gone, the seduction is over"

"Girls with boyfriends make excellent targets. If you can seduce a faithful girlfriend without showing up on the radar, you will have no problem with a single girl"

"Seduction does not always end in the bedroom. If you seduce a faithful girlfriend or wife, she may decide to cut off all contact with you when she realizes that she is in love with you. Mark it as a success and be thankful that you didn't have to break up with her. Do NOT however, go around ruining lives, there are people out there who are happy with each other, and who really don't need you to ruin that"

"Never take anything too seriously. You want to position yourself as a vacation from other guys--as the perfect summer fling. You are not possessive or controlling"

"Not every woman can be seduced. College-age girls are especially difficult because they are the most satisfied with themselves. Younger girls want to feel mature and older girls want to feel young"

"If the seduction fails for one reason or another, leave a good space of time before attempting to seduce her again. She must completely forget about the bad stuff before you can try to revive the old feelings"

"Women can sense fear and weakness very easily. If you have shown fear or weakness (we all have), it's time to start over"

"If you use this technique purely for the end result, you probably don't have the patience to perform a seduction correctly. Pleasure plays a major role throughout the process. You are not offering her a chance to sleep with you, but rather a chance to fall in love"

"Study the biographies, writings and speeches of the world's greatest seducers: Erroll Flynn, Casanova, Lord Byron, Charles De Gaulle, Gabriele D'Annunzio, etc"

"Physically attractive seducers will be able to seduce much faster than unattractive ones, because the attraction is already there. However, unattractive men will have an easier time getting close to girls and gaining access to their hopes and dreams"

The Psychology of The Woman Species

2008-12-23T20:40:00.000-08:00

A Secret Women Know But Men Don't
By David DeAngelo

They make her run-All those great intentions and emotional dedication from men.They actually cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away.It sucks!!!

"...if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRES."

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message , others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor...?Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?Yea, I have too.Well here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.It's going to trigger a feeling that [I'd] call the "Instant Ewww".The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.It's over.It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behaving differently.In short, she'll disappear.

Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them.I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a girl.In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...

THE ANSWER:There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes you back.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter...

Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says "From your secret admirer".

Don't call her three times a day.

DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.

"If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER"

Use "The Kiss Test" .As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she feels...Asking a woman if she's interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are "her type" will actually DESTROY the chances that she'll like you.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.And how does one do that?One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

Seducing A Man...

2008-12-23T20:02:00.000-08:00

How to Seduce a Man

"Always...The trick is to leave the guy unsatisfied…yes you read it right. UNsatisfied is the word over here. Leave him intrigued so that he craves for more. That is what will make him even more attracted towards you"

Follow these "tips to seduce a guy" and be an expert:

Create the Right Environment:Seduction is best done is a sensual atmosphere. The best environment for seduction is candle lit dinner and soft music.

Confidence Counts:Men like women who are confident about themselves. So straighten those shoulders, put your nose up in the air and walk with that confident swagger. Be careful not to overdo it else it may look arrogant instead of confident.

Eye Contact:Eyes are the windows to our soul. Lock him in a captivating glance and make sure you "speak" with your eyes. Maintain a steady gaze. Do not gawk or stare.

Play Hard to Get: But don't be so cold that the guy loses interest in you.

Looks that kill:Slip on a sensuous dress, let your locks fall on your slender shoulders, wear those dangerously high stilettos and apply some make up. Accentuate your attractive features like eyes, lips or neck. If you find yourself gorgeous in the mirror, consider half of your job done!

Modulate your Tone:Nothing is more seductive than a gentle yet sensuous tone. Whisper something in his ear like " You look chic in blue" in that seductive tone. Flirt!Flirt by all means. Blink your eyes to look vulnerable yet hard to get. You can slightly touch him on the shoulder or the wrist while laughing. Again, don't overdo it. Men don't like being pushed. Engage in a good conversation and give your viewpoints instead of nodding your head constantly to his.

Smell Good:Make sure you smell good. Apply a nice perfume that is not too strong. In order to make it last long, do layering. This means, you layer yourself with the same smell in different ways. For instance if your perfume smells of rose, put some drops of rose essential oils in your bathwater. Apply some powder that smells of rose and finally apply the perfume. DO NOT spray the perfume directly on yourself. Spray it in front of you and immediately walk through the mist. This makes sure it is not concentrated on some places and you smell good overall.

More Than Sex!!!

2008-12-23T19:33:00.001-08:00

Make Her Happy In Bed

Step1
Make sure she wants it. Do not pressure a woman into being intimate. If she feels like she never had a chance to seduce you, she would begin to resent the pressure. Make her feel wanted, but also give her a chance to be the seductress.

Step2
Women enjoy the touching and cuddling much more that men seem to. Hold her for awhile. Make her feel safe.

Step3
If you know your woman is dying be intimate, make her wait a little. Kiss her from head to toe, lick her body.

Step4
Pay special attention to the neck and ears. The ears in particular are a sensitive erotic spot for most women. Just a little nibble and blowing.

Step5
Run your fingers all over her body very gently.Do not lick it like a hound dog though...gently, gently.

Step6
Try a little biting but keep it very gentle at first to see if this is a sexual turn on for your woman. Especially if she is very excited spend a few minutes concentrating on everything except the most special area. This increases desire in most women.

Step7
Some women like breast fondling and others do not. Do not assume that all women enjoy this. The breasts are a very sensitive area. Focus on this area to some degree, but do not get carried away.

Step8
You will know when she is ready for intimacy. Be sure to follow her lead. Women are all about emotions. If you can get in touch with her in an emotional sense, you will be suprised at the level of intimacy that can be achieved

“How To Tell If She’s Ready To Be Kissed"

2008-12-23T16:49:00.000-08:00

The Kiss Test

"I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.
I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get another chance.
Here's what I do now:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.
By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out"

How to find a date

2008-12-22T20:14:00.009-08:00

If You're Ready,Get A Date

It does not matter if you don't usually meet a lot of people!

The first thing you want to do is 'top ensure your self esteem is at an all time high'.

Make your date feel special by looking good yourself

Give yourself a makeover.Buy some new clothes .Get a new haircut or hairstyle.Get a full beauty treatment and makeover.Visit your dentist and get those teeth looking pearl white.Get a tan and freshen your skin.Get to grips with latest styles and fashions.Treat yourself to a rejuvenating break.Read some new magazines and go shopping just to get the feel.Join a health club and get into a new health routine.Go on a diet and lose a few pounds or kilos if needed.Take up a martial art or self defense classes.Have an increased positive mental attitude

The next thing you need to do in preparation to find a date is to think long and hard as to what you really hope to achieve and whether you have any fixed aims and timescales. Have a clear idea of the person you are kind of looking for, but do not be too specific.

Here are some ideas to help you find a date...

Dating Close to Home:Anyone in your neighborhood or family circle who is single with whom you get on great!

Dating At Work :A lot of people working in London who are attached, met through work or started dating at work.Try joining in after work or attending after work social events, from bowling to trips to the bar or comedy store. It is all about making new friends as much as finding a date.

Get Physical:That’s right, join a gym and never get there not looking good!Try other sports and healthy activities from yachting to running to baseball to anything you may not have tried before. You will make fabulous new friends as well as finding a date. And you will be fit.

Ask Your Friend:You need some single friends. You can always find a date with a group of like-minded people. Also, there is confidence and safety when socializing in numbers. This will in turn open up new places and venues for you to visit. Your confidence levels may well increase exponentially too. 'New single friends are everywhere'

Join a Club :If you are not a member of any club then consider one and if it will introduce you to others...most times,it will.You can be sure that there are other people also looking for a date who'd also join your club for the same reason.

Go get a date! It may not always be easy to take a step like this if you have been out of the dating arena for years. Lift your spirit and take your romantic life back into your grasp. Think through the ideas above and add some yourself also.

Life is meant to be lived and more importantly to share with someone special

"Don't take yourself too seriouly!Dating is a game,life is a tune...the wise dances to the melody of life"

What would dating be without flirting?

2008-12-22T19:52:00.000-08:00

Are You A Flirt?

"If you are, you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it".

Flirting means giving people attention,that is smiling, touching, whispering. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so BEWARE!

Key indicators of flirting: The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Others are-

Eye Contact
Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
Any form of winking
Rapid eye movement and blinking
Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

Hair and Mouth
Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
Eye contact whilst playing with hair
Touching your hair at any time
Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing

Lip licking
Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue
Body Movement
The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
The copying of your posture - mirroring
Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
Open legged posture facing you
The display of flesh of arm or thigh

Touching
They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
They will play with their hands and then with yours
The Way they Speak
Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
Lots of laughter and questioning tones

In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.

The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.

Da Rules

2008-12-22T19:39:00.000-08:00

Guidelines For The Dating Game!

The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older.Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride.
Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.

Dating Rules - Do's

1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates

2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.

3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.

4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.

5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.

6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.

7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.

8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.

9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.

10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

Dating Rules - Don'ts

1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.

2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.

3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.

4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.

5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.

6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.

7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.

8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.

9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.

10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.

11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.

12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.