How to find a date

If You're Ready,Get A Date

It does not matter if you don't usually meet a lot of people!

The first thing you want to do is 'top ensure your self esteem is at an all time high'.



Make your date feel special by looking good yourself


Give yourself a makeover.Buy some new clothes .Get a new haircut or hairstyle.Get a full beauty treatment and makeover.Visit your dentist and get those teeth looking pearl white.Get a tan and freshen your skin.Get to grips with latest styles and fashions.Treat yourself to a rejuvenating break.Read some new magazines and go shopping just to get the feel.Join a health club and get into a new health routine.Go on a diet and lose a few pounds or kilos if needed.Take up a martial art or self defense classes.Have an increased positive mental attitude



The next thing you need to do in preparation to find a date is to think long and hard as to what you really hope to achieve and whether you have any fixed aims and timescales. Have a clear idea of the person you are kind of looking for, but do not be too specific.



Here are some ideas to help you find a date...

Dating Close to Home:Anyone in your neighborhood or family circle who is single with whom you get on great!

Dating At Work :A lot of people working in London who are attached, met through work or started dating at work.Try joining in after work or attending after work social events, from bowling to trips to the bar or comedy store. It is all about making new friends as much as finding a date.



Get Physical:That’s right, join a gym and never get there not looking good!Try other sports and healthy activities from yachting to running to baseball to anything you may not have tried before. You will make fabulous new friends as well as finding a date. And you will be fit.



Ask Your Friend:You need some single friends. You can always find a date with a group of like-minded people. Also, there is confidence and safety when socializing in numbers. This will in turn open up new places and venues for you to visit. Your confidence levels may well increase exponentially too. 'New single friends are everywhere'


Join a Club :If you are not a member of any club then consider one and if it will introduce you to others...most times,it will.You can be sure that there are other people also looking for a date who'd also join your club for the same reason.



Go get a date! It may not always be easy to take a step like this if you have been out of the dating arena for years. Lift your spirit and take your romantic life back into your grasp. Think through the ideas above and add some yourself also.

Life is meant to be lived and more importantly to share with someone special

"Don't take yourself too seriouly!Dating is a game,life is a tune...the wise dances to the melody of life"

What would dating be without flirting?

Are You A Flirt?

"If you are, you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it".

Flirting means giving people attention,that is smiling, touching, whispering. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so BEWARE!

Key indicators of flirting: The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Others are-

• Eye Contact
  Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
  Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
  Any form of winking
  Rapid eye movement and blinking
  Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

• Hair and Mouth
  Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
  Eye contact whilst playing with hair
  Touching your hair at any time
  Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing

• Lip licking
  Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
  Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue
  
• Body Movement
  The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
  The copying of your posture - mirroring
  Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
  Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
  Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
  Open legged posture facing you
  The display of flesh of arm or thigh

• Touching
  They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
  They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
  They will play with their hands and then with yours
  The Way they Speak
  Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
  Lots of laughter and questioning tones
  
  In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.
  
  The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.

Da Rules

Guidelines For The Dating Game!

The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older.Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride.
Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.




Dating Rules - Do's

1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates

2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.

3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.

4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.

5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.

6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.

7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.

8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.

9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.

10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

Dating Rules - Don'ts

1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.

2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.

3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.

4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.

5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.

6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.

7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.

8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.

9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.

10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.

11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.

12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.