Terrible Habits at Dates

"Terrible Habits at Dates: Traits We Won't Accept"…ladies

This definitely depends on individual ladies. There are however some common grounds:

1. Hygiene
This is at the top in the league. Unfortunately, it is often overlooked by men. A date requires more than a quick rake of the hair and the straightening of a T shirt.

“Remember, first impressions count and may be the only impression you leave”

Before a date; have a shave, wash your hair, scrub up well and get suited and booted. Brush your teeth for two straight minutes, wear deodorant and aftershave (a little of the good stuff only please) and put on a nice shirt!

2. Dressing
Some guys look terrible at dates… with a wrong dressing combinations or inappropriate attire. It sucks!

“The fact is, the first date is very important”

You don't need to be wearing Gucci or Armani, your comfort should be of prime importance. Smart casual can be good depending on your date.

3. Money
Keep your cash conversations to a zero level and enjoy your date together. Money, contrary to many impressions doesn't impress at first. It simply polarizes views. It can leave your date feeling very uncomfortable either way.

“Don’t lie about the size of your pocket”

4. Lies
People tell lies on dates, in fact most people do. Usually you get caught later on. Little white lies show the path towards dating disaster. Honesty is one of the basic building blocks of any new dating experience.

“Get caught out later at your peril”

5. Drinking
Here lays the true path to disaster. May ladies complain that the most promising dates they have been on got nipped in the bud simply because their dates got lashed on stout or beer. Many people are far better with a drink inside them than without. It's a relaxant; it calms nerves and fears and promotes a feeling of confidence.

While drinking can be fine, leave it out at this stage of your dating game plan.

The Psychology of The Woman Species

A Secret Women Know But Men Don't
By David DeAngelo

They make her run-All those great intentions and emotional dedication from men.They actually cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away.It sucks!!!

"...if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRES."

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message , others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor...?Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?Yea, I have too.Well here's the deal:

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If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.It's going to trigger a feeling that [I'd] call the "Instant Ewww".The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.It's over.It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behaving differently.In short, she'll disappear.

Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them.I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a girl.In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...

THE ANSWER:There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes you back.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter...

Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says "From your secret admirer".

Don't call her three times a day.

DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.

"If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER"

Use "The Kiss Test" .As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she feels...Asking a woman if she's interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are "her type" will actually DESTROY the chances that she'll like you.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.And how does one do that?One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

Da Rules

Guidelines For The Dating Game!

The problem with the dating game is that there are dating rules to follow and most of them we forget as we grow older.Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride.
Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.




Dating Rules - Do's

1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates

2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.

3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.

4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.

5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.

6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.

7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.

8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.

9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.

10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

Dating Rules - Don'ts

1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.

2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.

3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.

4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.

5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.

6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.

7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.

8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.

9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.

10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.

11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.

12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.