"BEEF UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP"

BEEF UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN "2009"

"It's 2009 but nothing has really changed

Nothing will ever really change

It's just us that need to change inside

So change can effect itself on the outside"

Relationship is everything.Love is everything-the one single source of unexplainable hapiness.A crappy relationship can terribly ruin your career.So also, a little neglect like forgeting your partner's birthday can ruin a week or even a month because she'd whine over it.And then, it is really a bad thing!

Here is a summary of a few tips:

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  Don't forget the power of surprise gifts(apart from the birthday or special days)


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  Remember to always observe and sincerely compliment your partner when he/she gets a new cloth or wears a beautiful hairdo or dress


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  Don't wait for signs of dryness befor taking her out on another date-swimming,restaurant,theatre,concert,picnic-.Make sure it's never thesame place all the time.


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  Take care of your appearance.Spend a little more time and money to dazzle him/her with your appearance.


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  Exercise regularly and maintain an attractive size.


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  Keep your breath great.


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  It's 2009,keep your promises to her also.

HAVE A LOVE-FUL NEW YEAR!

...the first and basic principle of attracting women!

Being Mysterious…..the first and basic principle of attracting women

Remember how many times you’ve heard the expression:

"mysterious stranger"

" I really want to get to know you more"

Being enigmatic makes a person tick. Someone you can read like an open book lacks that essential quality and is therefore less attractive at first glance.

“People are attracted to mystery”

A busy person always seems attractive. You simply wish to know more. And in trying to know more, you find an interest level that you didn't find in those that offer you everything on a plate.

To be successful and attractive when dating it pays to keep something in reserve

“By being a challenge to someone who wants to get to know you and by making them work for it, your chances of success in the dating game are so much higher”

It is worth noting however that enigma and mystery are very different from being stubborn and moody. Not knowing about your life and what makes you tick is one thing. Being downright secretive is something completely different.

Here are some key tips to being enigmatic and mysterious:

1. At work or with friends, don't bore the office with every opinion you can muster.




2. Always keep something back when relating a story - why and how and when are details for later




3. Don't announce every plan you make. Keep some things to yourself for a while
   




4. Do not phone people, let them call you
   




5. Don't always return calls and never instantly
   




6. Keep your private life private. It is not open for general discussion and debate
   




7. Don't be too available but don't explain why you are not available either
   




8. Keep people guessing
   




9. Making interested parties think they are not the only person interested in you ups the ante and increases your desirability
   




10. Don't reply to emails and text messages at weekends
    




11. If you are using a dating service, don't reply to emails and messages at weekends
    




12. Be busy without giving details of what you are doing
    




13. Break plans occasionally without giving too much away
    




14. When you do meet up be entertaining and fascinating without giving every detail away
    




15. Never discuss ex partners and refuse to be drawn on the subject
    




16. Use an evasive enigmatic smile to answer questions to great effect
    




17. Even when people beg you to know more, keep them guessing
    




18. Never be too available, your diary is always semi-full as far as anyone is concerned
    




19. Mention you were with 'some people' but say little else on the subject when relating a tale
    




20. Let people do the running and don't do the chasing unless necessary
    




21. Have different groups of friends who you don't mix together
    




22. To be highly effective, create the desire initially then ration it afterwards. They will treat you like a drug, craving more due to the great times they have when they do eventually get to see you
    




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    Learn key expressions like "oh I have been really busy", "wow its been crazy", "I have lots of plans this week", "my diary is really full" and "Oh I have been doing so many things" without giving more away
    
    Be a challenge!
    
    Never be an open book!
    
    Make people work to get to know you!
    
    Being mysterious takes practice and takes time to get right. Once you do so and are comfortable in not being in constant communication with people they will soon desire to know more.
    It requires a fine balancing trick however because if you are too evasive, people will get fed up and move on!
    
    AVOID DOING WHAT MAKES SENSE,DO WHAT WORKS!!!

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“How To Tell If She’s Ready To Be Kissed"

The Kiss Test

"I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.
I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get another chance.
Here's what I do now:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.
By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out"

How to find a date

If You're Ready,Get A Date

It does not matter if you don't usually meet a lot of people!

The first thing you want to do is 'top ensure your self esteem is at an all time high'.



Make your date feel special by looking good yourself


Give yourself a makeover.Buy some new clothes .Get a new haircut or hairstyle.Get a full beauty treatment and makeover.Visit your dentist and get those teeth looking pearl white.Get a tan and freshen your skin.Get to grips with latest styles and fashions.Treat yourself to a rejuvenating break.Read some new magazines and go shopping just to get the feel.Join a health club and get into a new health routine.Go on a diet and lose a few pounds or kilos if needed.Take up a martial art or self defense classes.Have an increased positive mental attitude



The next thing you need to do in preparation to find a date is to think long and hard as to what you really hope to achieve and whether you have any fixed aims and timescales. Have a clear idea of the person you are kind of looking for, but do not be too specific.



Here are some ideas to help you find a date...

Dating Close to Home:Anyone in your neighborhood or family circle who is single with whom you get on great!

Dating At Work :A lot of people working in London who are attached, met through work or started dating at work.Try joining in after work or attending after work social events, from bowling to trips to the bar or comedy store. It is all about making new friends as much as finding a date.



Get Physical:That’s right, join a gym and never get there not looking good!Try other sports and healthy activities from yachting to running to baseball to anything you may not have tried before. You will make fabulous new friends as well as finding a date. And you will be fit.



Ask Your Friend:You need some single friends. You can always find a date with a group of like-minded people. Also, there is confidence and safety when socializing in numbers. This will in turn open up new places and venues for you to visit. Your confidence levels may well increase exponentially too. 'New single friends are everywhere'


Join a Club :If you are not a member of any club then consider one and if it will introduce you to others...most times,it will.You can be sure that there are other people also looking for a date who'd also join your club for the same reason.



Go get a date! It may not always be easy to take a step like this if you have been out of the dating arena for years. Lift your spirit and take your romantic life back into your grasp. Think through the ideas above and add some yourself also.

Life is meant to be lived and more importantly to share with someone special

"Don't take yourself too seriouly!Dating is a game,life is a tune...the wise dances to the melody of life"

What would dating be without flirting?

Are You A Flirt?

"If you are, you know it and are secretly proud of the fact. It is sexy when you flirt and people like it".

Flirting means giving people attention,that is smiling, touching, whispering. In the wrong circumstances it will get you fired. There is a gulf between flirting and unwanted sexual advances so BEWARE!

Key indicators of flirting: The one to keep your eye on the most is "mirroring". Mirroring is when someone copies your body movements whilst retaining eye contact. Others are-

• Eye Contact
  Pupils are dilated and eye contact is maintained
  Eye contact combined with an arched eye brow
  Any form of winking
  Rapid eye movement and blinking
  Eye contact where the gaze is held longer than usual. Men normally look away.

• Hair and Mouth
  Playing with hair in a stroking or toying motion
  Eye contact whilst playing with hair
  Touching your hair at any time
  Lots of smiling, open mouthed and teeth flashing

• Lip licking
  Puckering lips in a simulated kiss form
  Any form of touch of the lips or teeth with tongue
  
• Body Movement
  The thrusting of chest or breasts outwards whilst holding your gaze
  The copying of your posture - mirroring
  Holding your gaze whilst moving to music
  Using a posture with legs crossed towards you
  Leaning in towards you whilst holding your gaze
  Open legged posture facing you
  The display of flesh of arm or thigh

• Touching
  They will want to touch you and will reach out to do so with some excuse
  They will offer to place food in your mouth as if feeding you
  They will play with their hands and then with yours
  The Way they Speak
  Their tone and speed of conversation mirrors your own
  Lots of laughter and questioning tones
  
  In a group, you are singled out by this person for attention even in general conversation and questions. This happened to me in New York and I was taken aback how obvious it was.
  
  The main thing to remember with flirting is that it is fun and so much more so when you are receptive to it and understand when it is happening to you. The best flirtatious moments will always take you by surprise.