Get Her In Bed

STEP-BY-STEP TIPS TO SEDUCING A WOMAN

1. Manage your image. Before you can seduce a girl, you must have a good, positive image. Make friends and be charming with every one you come in contact with. Never hesitate to tell one person what you admire about another, as it will eventually reach that person and appear undoubtedly genuine. Never argue (arguing is anti-seduction). No girl can resist a guy whom everyone likes.


2. Manage your reputation. While people around you begin to like you, you may start to appear phony or plastic. You must also subtly reveal your human side with talk of taboo and sexuality. If you cannot insinuate, skip this step. Occasionally hint to people that you enjoy the company of young girls on a purely platonic level. When you talk about sex, say it in a way that Shakespeare would approve of. For example, "Sleep is my second favorite thing to do in bed" or "my neighbors are noisy during the day, but that's okay because they put up with me at night."


3. Do the opposite of what other guys do. If the girl is drop-dead gorgeous, ignore her. After hearing about your rakish reputation, she will wonder why you are not attracted to her. If other guys ignore her, shower her with the attention she has been craving. It will appear to her that you are smitten.


4. Hint that other girls like you. Women hold each other's opinions very highly and they get jealous easily.


5. Wait for the sign that she is interested. The gorgeous girl was ignoring you at first and now she flirts heavily. The not-so-attractive girl was shy and hesitant at first, but now she drops (very subtle) hints that she wants you to make a move.


6. Speak seductively. Never start a conversation focused on work, school, MySpace, family,TV shows, or other everyday things. Never talk about yourself. Talk about exotic vacation spots, mythology,sex (sometimes), history, astrology, dreams, fate, and anything else pleasurable and intangible. Don't express any opinions except for your preference for pleasurable things and for things that she likes. Keep a powerful gaze while talking about these things. The eyes are very important. Never apologize. Never worry when you are talking with a girl, because it will be written all over your face and interpreted as a sign of weakness.


7. Show strategic weakness (optional). This step is optional, but it will speed up the seduction. If you naturally come off as weak, skip this step. For more masculine guys, a flash of weakness and sensitivity will make you seem honest, romantic, harmless, and more akin to a girl's idea of "the one." All girls are frightened of guys on some level. The more feminine and skittish the girl is, the more necessary this step is. The key to performing this step correctly is to bend the truth. Don't talk about breakups or events that you really are sensitive about. As with dancing, it is your job to lead. Don't lead her into a depressing discussion topic. Add a masculine angle to feminine subjects. A good idea would be to say, "yeah, I watched The Notebook. I liked how he didn't give up hope after he saw her with the other guy."


8. Give her plenty of space. There are bound to be things about you that she doesn't like.Give her time to forget about those things and fantasize about the good things you have to offer.


9. Ask her out.You will eventually learn what the right time is--not too early and not too late.If you flirt with a girl over a long period of time, you will notice that the slow, steady increase in the attention that she gives you is followed by a sharp drop-off. This is a signal that she is sick of waiting and spites you for it. You have no chance after that. Girls are very picky about timing. Make sure it's an offer she can't refuse. It takes attention to detail, practice and luck to pick the perfect first date.


10. Turn on the charm. She already said "yes." As difficult as it is to blow it now, many guys do by being shy. If you don't show that you're attracted to her now, you will be seen as unappreciative or weak. Girls typically give about ten "nos" for every "yes," so show (don't tell) your appreciation for it. It's OK to bend the truth. If she's gorgeous, insinuate how clever and charming she is. If she's not, insinuate that she is. A great deal of the conversation will be non-verbal. Use ambiguous physical contact. Walk close enough to her that you brush against each other often, touch her lower back when you open the car door for her. If you are nervous when you touch a girl, it will make her very uncomfortable.Confidence is the difference between touching her and molesting her.
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11. write well-crafted letters to her. There are some diamonds in the rough out there. When she is reading a letter, she can enjoy your words of love without worrying about whether you like the way she looks or acts. Each time she reads it (and she will read it over and over again so make it good) she will wish more and more that you are there with her. Make every word count and keep it brief. If she's outgoing and a good talker, she may find letters trivial, but always include a good one with gifts. Whether talking or writing, keep it brief. It is better to say nothing at all than to say something that is not seductive.


12. Obey the correct sequence of physical interactions. Don't move too fast. Wait for her to touch you flirtatiously. Hand-holding is next. Then comes close contact and embraces. Then comes kissing. Then comes the making out and heavy petting and all the rest. The process should be slow, poetic and musical like Pachelbel's Canon. There is no room for discomfort in seduction.


13. Establish an emotional connection. When you talk to your person of interest, find out commonalities, establish the moment, and you may relate to things she is passionate about or interested in.
    

Facts You Must Know 'bout Seducing Women!

Must Know...If You'll Never Goof Seducing Her

"Seduction is an art. It takes as much practice as learning a musical instrument or painting"

"Empathy is essential to seduction. Every woman is different, so tailor your date, your words and your actions to that specific woman. You must know what she is thinking before you can offer her the pleasure she craves"

"If she senses that you are seducing her, she will run away. The pace of your seduction should be slow and the volume should be quiet"

"All women like power in at least one of its many manifestations: money, status, intelligence, strength, etc. You need at least a little before you can seduce the most beautiful of women"

"Many girls will tell you that confidence is what they look for, but nothing will increase your confidence like a successful seduction"

'Insinuation is a must. Only a movie star or a professional athlete could expect success with a brash line like "let's go back to my place and...." '

"Don't be a doormat or a people-pleaser. If you are perceived as weak, you will never get a girl"

"Always be honest, meaning don't tell a lie. A lie is something you can get caught in. Don't lie about your income, whether you have a girlfriend or not, whether you are good at sports, etc"

" Girls can see right through lies. However, bending the truth to achieve a more poetic effect is absolutely necessary. Also, most of the time, the correct answer is to say nothing at all"

"Seducing a woman is like dancing with a woman. Sometimes you hold her close and sometimes you let her shine on her own and watch. If you are too clingy, she will feel suffocated. If you let her go and never come back, she will be insulted"

"Reveal yourself slowly and only when directly asked. Don't show more of yourself than she asks for. When the mystery is gone, the seduction is over"

"Girls with boyfriends make excellent targets. If you can seduce a faithful girlfriend without showing up on the radar, you will have no problem with a single girl"

"Seduction does not always end in the bedroom. If you seduce a faithful girlfriend or wife, she may decide to cut off all contact with you when she realizes that she is in love with you. Mark it as a success and be thankful that you didn't have to break up with her. Do NOT however, go around ruining lives, there are people out there who are happy with each other, and who really don't need you to ruin that"

"Never take anything too seriously. You want to position yourself as a vacation from other guys--as the perfect summer fling. You are not possessive or controlling"

"Not every woman can be seduced. College-age girls are especially difficult because they are the most satisfied with themselves. Younger girls want to feel mature and older girls want to feel young"

"If the seduction fails for one reason or another, leave a good space of time before attempting to seduce her again. She must completely forget about the bad stuff before you can try to revive the old feelings"

"Women can sense fear and weakness very easily. If you have shown fear or weakness (we all have), it's time to start over"

"If you use this technique purely for the end result, you probably don't have the patience to perform a seduction correctly. Pleasure plays a major role throughout the process. You are not offering her a chance to sleep with you, but rather a chance to fall in love"

"Study the biographies, writings and speeches of the world's greatest seducers: Erroll Flynn, Casanova, Lord Byron, Charles De Gaulle, Gabriele D'Annunzio, etc"

"Physically attractive seducers will be able to seduce much faster than unattractive ones, because the attraction is already there. However, unattractive men will have an easier time getting close to girls and gaining access to their hopes and dreams"

The Psychology of The Woman Species

A Secret Women Know But Men Don't
By David DeAngelo

They make her run-All those great intentions and emotional dedication from men.They actually cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away.It sucks!!!

"...if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRES."

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message , others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor...?Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?Yea, I have too.Well here's the deal:

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If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.It's going to trigger a feeling that [I'd] call the "Instant Ewww".The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.It's over.It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behaving differently.In short, she'll disappear.

Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them.I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a girl.In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...

THE ANSWER:There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes you back.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter...

Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says "From your secret admirer".

Don't call her three times a day.

DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.

"If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER"

Use "The Kiss Test" .As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she feels...Asking a woman if she's interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are "her type" will actually DESTROY the chances that she'll like you.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.And how does one do that?One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

Seducing A Man...

How to Seduce a Man

"Always...The trick is to leave the guy unsatisfied…yes you read it right. UNsatisfied is the word over here. Leave him intrigued so that he craves for more. That is what will make him even more attracted towards you"

Follow these "tips to seduce a guy" and be an expert:

Create the Right Environment:Seduction is best done is a sensual atmosphere. The best environment for seduction is candle lit dinner and soft music.

Confidence Counts:Men like women who are confident about themselves. So straighten those shoulders, put your nose up in the air and walk with that confident swagger. Be careful not to overdo it else it may look arrogant instead of confident.

Eye Contact:Eyes are the windows to our soul. Lock him in a captivating glance and make sure you "speak" with your eyes. Maintain a steady gaze. Do not gawk or stare.

Play Hard to Get: But don't be so cold that the guy loses interest in you.

Looks that kill:Slip on a sensuous dress, let your locks fall on your slender shoulders, wear those dangerously high stilettos and apply some make up. Accentuate your attractive features like eyes, lips or neck. If you find yourself gorgeous in the mirror, consider half of your job done!

Modulate your Tone:Nothing is more seductive than a gentle yet sensuous tone. Whisper something in his ear like " You look chic in blue" in that seductive tone. Flirt!Flirt by all means. Blink your eyes to look vulnerable yet hard to get. You can slightly touch him on the shoulder or the wrist while laughing. Again, don't overdo it. Men don't like being pushed. Engage in a good conversation and give your viewpoints instead of nodding your head constantly to his.

Smell Good:Make sure you smell good. Apply a nice perfume that is not too strong. In order to make it last long, do layering. This means, you layer yourself with the same smell in different ways. For instance if your perfume smells of rose, put some drops of rose essential oils in your bathwater. Apply some powder that smells of rose and finally apply the perfume. DO NOT spray the perfume directly on yourself. Spray it in front of you and immediately walk through the mist. This makes sure it is not concentrated on some places and you smell good overall.

More Than Sex!!!

Make Her Happy In Bed

Step1
Make sure she wants it. Do not pressure a woman into being intimate. If she feels like she never had a chance to seduce you, she would begin to resent the pressure. Make her feel wanted, but also give her a chance to be the seductress.

Step2
Women enjoy the touching and cuddling much more that men seem to. Hold her for awhile. Make her feel safe.

Step3
If you know your woman is dying be intimate, make her wait a little. Kiss her from head to toe, lick her body.

Step4
Pay special attention to the neck and ears. The ears in particular are a sensitive erotic spot for most women. Just a little nibble and blowing.

Step5
Run your fingers all over her body very gently.Do not lick it like a hound dog though...gently, gently.

Step6
Try a little biting but keep it very gentle at first to see if this is a sexual turn on for your woman. Especially if she is very excited spend a few minutes concentrating on everything except the most special area. This increases desire in most women.

Step7
Some women like breast fondling and others do not. Do not assume that all women enjoy this. The breasts are a very sensitive area. Focus on this area to some degree, but do not get carried away.

Step8
You will know when she is ready for intimacy. Be sure to follow her lead. Women are all about emotions. If you can get in touch with her in an emotional sense, you will be suprised at the level of intimacy that can be achieved

“How To Tell If She’s Ready To Be Kissed"

The Kiss Test

"I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.
I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice...” but I didn't know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn't get another chance.
Here's what I do now:
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and likes this, I'll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she's ready to be kissed.
By using “The Kiss Test” I've been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven't given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she's ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out"